My 2023 Resolutions Don't Include Having a Baby

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I enjoy creating a roadmap for the New Year. Setting goals every year helps me engage in activities that are aligned with my values, check-in on what I want to accomplish, and also, check-in on what is realistic in the New Year. And, for the last four years my goals included something to do with ultimately having a child: get pregnant, start Clomid, start IVF, complete adoption application, have a baby, have a healthy pregnancy.

This year, for the first time in four years, I’m not setting any goals around having a baby. And, it feels good. For the first time in four years, I’m honoring my body autonomy. I’m focusing on the relationships I have. And, more importantly, I’m not setting myself up for disappointment when another year passes and there is no baby in my arms.

Having a child is tenuous and unpredictable. As so many of us know, a pregnancy does not equal a living, breathing baby. And, not having a baby is NOT an indication of how well your year went. My hope for 2023 is to stop measuring my success on whether or not I have a “successful” pregnancy.

This doesn’t mean I’m not making plans to have a child. Quite the opposite! Rather, I’m simply not going to have it be the deciding factor on whether or not I’ve had a good year.

So, what are my goals for the New Year?? Continue reading to find out more!