I am now offering psychotherapy services in Connecticut, New York, New Jersey, and Florida. I have telehealth openings starting September 7th. My practice focuses on serving individuals and couples navigating miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, IVF, ectopic pregnancies, molar pregnancies, TFMR, and pregnancy after loss.
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Working with a therapist during this time can be crucial to your healing process. And, I am always honored to work with each of you as you navigate this journey.
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My New Relationship with Social Media
After my second pregnancy loss, looking at Instagram felt impossible. It felt like every post at the top of my feed was a friend’s pregnancy announcement, a toddler’s birthday party, or family gatherings filled with young children and babies.
And, I hated every post.
Don’t get me wrong: I love my friends and family. And I truly was happy for them! But, in the moment, those photos were hard to see, eliciting a host of emotions: jealousy, rage, sadness, shame, fear.
Name the emotion, I felt it!
After our fourth pregnancy loss, we began the process of adoption. We matched early with a biological mother. We were in the delivery room when the baby was born. We brought him home. We named him.
And then, at the final hour, the biological mother changed her mind, and decided not to chose adoption for her son. Bringing him back to the adoption agency was, to date, the hardest moment of my life.
After that, José and I silenced our social media feeds. We needed space to heal, and social media was not serving us.
In part, we felt a bit embarrassed. Maybe even ashamed. Nothing in this life is promised or guaranteed. We had been vocal about our adoption journey on social media - and it felt absolutely awful to now have to tell everyone we were not adopting a child.
We did ultimately reactivate our social media feeds. But, our relationship with Facebook and Instagram was forever changed.
Initially, I questioned this. Should I share more? Should I be more active with the people I do want to connect with?
Even friends and family questioned this: You never share anything! We want to see more!
But, in the end, it wasn’t for us. Now, almost four years later, I have fully embraced my ambivalent relationship with social media. For those of us that find it helpful, it can be a wonderful tool. And, for others, it is OK to not engage on those platforms.
What has changed in your life since experiencing pregnancy loss or infertility? Are there things that have permanently been changed for you?