What Has Changed
Day 14: The Language We Use
As we wrap up these last two weeks, my hope is that you have found ways to speak to yourself with more kindness and self-compassion. I hope that you have recognized how others use language that might be invalidating, or validating, and how that has impacted you. And I hope that you are able to speak to others with empathy, the same empathy you are showing yourself.
People speak about pregnancy loss in ways that they would never speak about other losses. Pregnancy loss is often silenced and swept under the rug. Part of our time together these last two weeks is to validate the importance of our losses. By validating ourselves, others will validate us in turn.
In closing, here are some journaling prompts for you to reflect on what you have learned the last two weeks.
1. In what ways are you speaking kinder to yourself? In what ways are you showing yourself more self-compassion?
2. How are you validating yourself now? How are you validating others?
3. Are you able to recognize the things you say to yourself as a first draft, that your thoughts can be editing and revised?
4. When you recognize how others speak to you that are invalidating, how are you responding to it now? How has that changed over the last two weeks?
If you have made it this far, I am proud of you! Reframing and rewriting our thoughts is very hard in the wake of our loss. It sometimes feels easier to simply speak poorly to ourselves.
Stay tuned this weekend for a bonus offering for everyone who has completed these 14 days.