Which Therapist Will Help Me?

Exploring different therapeutic modalities after a pregnancy loss

Finding a therapist after a pregnancy loss is important, and for many of us necessary. But, simply finding a therapist with openings, who accepts your insurance or has a fee that you can afford after medical bills, and understands the complexity of pregnancy loss, is far from easy. And let’s not forget finding someone with whom you “click.”

What I found most challenging in my own search was that my resources were already quite low. After my second and third miscarriages, I felt depleted. Even a seemingly small task, such as feeding the dog, felt like I had used every resource I had to complete it. So, the time when I needed a therapist the most, was shadowed by constant denials:

I’m so sorry, I’m full.

I would love to see you! My fee is $350 for 45-minutes.

Miscarriage? I guess I can help you, but I’m not sure why you would need someone long-term.

Or, my least favorite response: no response. Unread emails, unanswered phone messages, and Psychology Today pleas sent out into a void, left me feeling hopeless.

When you do finally find a therapist who returns your call, how do you know it’s the right therapist for you? This article explores the various therapeutic modalities that might work for you after a pregnancy loss, and, how to potentially increase your chances of finding the right fit for you.